566. 4 Traits That Allaah Loves

By Asma bint Shameem 

Imam Ibn ul-Qayyim said:

“Generosity is one of the Attributes of Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala; 

He gives and does not take; 

He feeds and is not fed; and He is the Most Generous One. 

The most beloved to Him is whoever acquires the same traits; 

He is Generous and He loves the generous; 

He is Knowledgeable and He loves the knowledgeable; 

He is Powerful and He loves the courageous; and

He is Beautiful and He loves beauty.” 

[al-Wabil as-Sayyib p. 43]

Subhaan Allaah!

Four beautiful traits that Allaah loves!

Let’s acquire these traits and gain the love of our Rabb. 

A) *Generosity* — SPEND in the path of Allaah 

B) *Knowledge* — start LEARNING the Deen of Allaah 

C) *Courage* — Fear NO ONE but Allaah 

D) *Beauty* — It’s the beauty INSIDE that counts. 

Be the owner of a beautiful heart and soul.

565. 7 Traps Of Shaytan

1. Misbehaving and not mannered in front of parents and in society - its 'Boldness' 

2. Act and promote 'fahisha' (Naked,Nude behavior) - Its Confidence 

3. No Hijab needed- attracting opposite gender with Shamelessness - Its 'Beauty and Fashion '

4. Illicit & Kafir style actions and #Zina (adultery, fornication, Lust) - Its 'Love ' 

5.Music, dance (like animals), alcohol and drugs,movies - Its 'Entertainment'

6. Wasting precious time of Life (youth and other ages) on useless activities and worst sins possible to commit . Its 'Exception and Needed'. 

7. To talk against and make mockery of religion , scholars , Prophets, Mujahideen Islam - It is independence and 'Freedom of Speech'. 

May Allah azza wajal keep us away from such traps and guide us to sirat Mustaqeem - Milat ul Ibraheem- the way of the Prophets- Ameen 

564. Useful Advice For Muslim Parents

Useful advice for muslim parents on raising children which will have good consequences when the child grows up! (by Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah)

1. Children should not be picked up and carried around until they are three months old or more, because they have only recently emerged from their mother’s wombs and their bodies are still weak.

2. They should be given only milk until their teeth appear, because their stomachs are weak and unable to digest food. When the baby’s teeth appear, his stomach has grown strong and is able to be nourished by food. Food should be introduced gradually.

3. When they approach the age where they will begin to speak and one wants to make it easy for them to speak, a little honey and salt should be placed on the infant’s tongue, because they contain substances that will reduce the excessive moisture that prevents speech. When the child begins to speak, one should prompt him to say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Muhammad Rasool Allaah.

4. When the time for the teeth to appear comes, the gums should be rubbed every day with butter and ghee.

5. The child should be protected against everything that may scare him of harsh and terrifying noises, frightening scenes and disturbing movements.

6. Complete breastfeeding lasts for two years. This is the right of the child if he needs it and cannot do without it. The Qur’aan confirmed that by adding the word kaamilayn (meaning complete or whole, in the verse “The mothers shall give suck to their children for two whole years” [al-Baqarah 2:233]). If the one who is breastfeeding the child wants to wean him, she should wean him gradually, and not wean him suddenly in one go; rather she should get him used to it slowly because of the harm that may be done by changing the child’s food and habit in one go.

7. It is mistreatment of children to allow them to eat their fill of food, and to eat and drink a lot. One of the most beneficial ways of training them is to give them less than their fill, so that they may digest well and be in good health, there will be less waste in their bodies and their bodies will be healthy, and they will have less sickness because of having less food waste in their bodies.

8. One thing that the child needs most urgently is close attention to his moral well being. He grows up with whatever the one who is raising him gets him used to when he is small. [If it is] resentment, anger, arguments, haste, being easily led by whims and desires, foolishness, hot-temperedness and greed, then it will be difficult for him to change that when he grows up. Hence you will find that most people are deviant in their character, because of the way they were brought up.

9. The child’s guardian should keep him from taking from others because if he gets used to taking, that will become natural for him, and he will grow up as one who takes and not one who gives. If the guardian wants to give something, he should give it by his hand [i.e., give it to the child to give away] so that that he will taste the sweetness of giving.

10. He should keep him away from lying and treachery more than he would keep him awa y from lethal poison. Once he lets him get the habit of lying and betrayal, he will have corrupted his happiness in this world and in the Hereafter, and deprived him of all goodness.

11. He should keep him away from laziness, idleness, a life of ease and too much rest, and he should force him to do the opposite. He should not let him rest more than is sufficient to restore his energy so that he can do more work, for laziness and idleness bring bad consequences and lead to regret. Yahya ibn Abi Katheer said: “Knowledge cannot be attained by letting the body rest.”

12. He should get him used to waking up at the end of the night, for that is the time when reward is allocated and prizes are awarded; some will take less and some will take more and some will be deprived. If he gets used to that when he is little, it will be easy for him when he grows up.

This is an excerpt from the book of: Imam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (d. 751 AH), a famous book called Tuhfat al-Mawdood bi Ahkaam al-Mawlood. One of the most important chapters of his book is the sixteenth chapter, which is entitled Fi fusool naafi’ah fi Tarbiyat al-Atfaal tuhmad ‘awaaqibuha ‘ind al-Kabr (Useful advice on raising children which will have good consequences when the child grows up).

[Tuhfat al-Mawdood (194-203).]

563. 7 Prophetic Du'as For our Children

Parenting is the world's most challenging task, yet it can be the most satisfying and rewarding one, when done, the way Allah wants us to do !

Besides, we rely on our Greatest  weapon, DU'A

Amongst the many hurdles, we know that Shaitan is one of our greatest enemy & hence we need to seek refuge in Allah from his evil plots, *Even before the child is born !*

Hence, please make sure to protect our upcoming generations by consciously making dua before intimacy. 

Abu Huraira said, "I heard Allah's Messenger (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) saying, 'There is none born among the off-spring of Adam, but Satan touches it. A child therefore, cries loudly at the time of birth because of the touch of Satan, except Mary and her child." Then Abu Huraira recited: "And I seek refuge with You for her and for her offspring from the outcast Satan" (3:36)

Sahih Al Bukhari 3134

*1) Du'a before  Intimacy*

بِسْمِ اللَّهِ اللَّهمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ، وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا

‘In the name of Allah. O Allah, keep the devil away from us and keep the devil away from that which You provide for us .’

Al-Bukhari 6/141

Muslim 2/1028

*2) Du'a for Protection from evil* 

Ibn 'Abbaas (ra)related that the Messenger of Allaah (sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam) used to commend al-Hasan and al-Husayn to Allaah's protection, saying:

أُعيـذُكُمـا بِكَلِـماتِ اللهِ التّـامَّة، مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْـطانٍ وَهـامَّة، وَمِنْ كُـلِّ عَـيْنٍ لامَّـة

I seek protection for you in the Perfect Words of Allah from every devil and every beast , and from every envious blameworthy eye.

Al-Bukhari 4/119

*3) Du'a when someone wears new clothes.*

When we see our children wear new clothes, we can make this du'a for them.

اِلْبَـسْ جَدِيـداً وَعِـشْ حَمِـيداً وَمُـتْ شَهِيداً

Wear new clothes, live commendably (a praise-worthy life)  and die a martyr (shaheed).

Ibn Majah 2/1178

Sahih- by Al-Albani

*4) Du'a for Aafiya*

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَةَ فِي دِينِي وَدُنْيَايَ وَأَهْلِي، وَمَالِي،

 

O Allaah, I ask You for pardon and well-being in this life and the next. O Allaah, I ask You for pardon and well-being in my religious and worldly affairs, and my family and my wealth.

Sahih ibn Majah 2/332

*5) Du'a for ease*

Seeking Allah help to make parenting easy each passing day.

اَللّٰهُمَّ لَاسَھْلَ اِلاَّ مَاجَعَلْتَهُ سَھْلًا وَاَنْتَ تَجْعَلُ الْحَزْنَ سَھْلًا اِذَا شِئْتَ 

O Allah! There is no ease except which You have made easy and You ease out the difficulty. 

Sahih ibn Hibban 2429

*6) Du'a for Anguish*

Protection for every moment as parents.

اَللّٰهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ اَرْجُوْ فَلَا  تَكِلْنِیْ اِلٰی نَفْسِیْ طَرْفَةَ عَيْنٍ وَّاَصْلِحْ  لِیْ شَاْنِیْ کُلَّهُ لَا اِلٰهَ اِلَّا اَنْتَ 

 O Allah! I hope for Your mercy, so do not entrust me to myself for the twinkling of an eye and set all my affairs straight, there is no deity except You. 

Abu Dawud 4/324

Sahih by Al Albani 

*7) Du'a for Protection from misery & grief*

اَللّٰهُمَّ اِنِّیْ اَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنْ جَارِالسُّوْءِ وَمِنْ زَوْجٍ تُشَیِّبُنِیْ قَبْلَ الْمَشِیْبِ وَمِنْ وَلَدٍ یَکُوْنُ عَلَیَّ رَبًا وَّمِنْ مَّالٍ یَکُوْنُ عَلَیَّ عَذَابًا وَّمِنْ خَلِیْلٍ مَّاكِرٍ عَیْنُهُ تَرَانِیْ وَقَلْبُهُ یَرْعَانِیْ اِنْ رَّاٰی حَسَنَةً دَفَنَھَا وَاِنْ رَّاٰی سَیِّئَةً اَذَاعَھَا 

O Allah! I seek your protection from evil neighbour, and from a spouse who will cause me to age before my time, *and from children who will become a source of misery and grief for me*, and from wealth which will become a means of torment for me, and a treacherous friend whose eyes are always watching me, and in his heart, he is probing into my affairs. And if he sees any good in me, he will conceal it but if he comes across any faults in my character he exposes them to all. 

Silsilah Hadith Sahih 

3137

*8) Du'a for Protection & Baraka*

اَللّٰهُمَّ اَلِّفْ بَيْنَ قُلُوْبِنَا وَاَصْلِحْ ذَاتَ بَيْنِنَا وَاھْدِنَا سُبُلَ السَّلَامِ وَنَجِّنَا مِنَ الظُّلُمَاتِ اِلَی النُّوْرِ وَجَنِّبْنَا الْفَوَاحِشَ مَا ظَھَرَ مِنْھَا وَمَا بَطَنَ وَبَارِكْ لَنَا فِیْ اَسْمَاعِنَا واَبْصَارِنَا وَقُلُوْبِنَا وَاَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا وَتُبْ عَلَيْنَا اِنَّكَ اَنْتَ التَّوَّابُ الرَّحِيْمُ وَاجْعَلْنَا شَاكِرِیْنَ لِنِعَمِكَ مُثْنِیْنَ بِھَا عَلَيْكَ قَابِلِیْنَ لَھا وَاَتْمِمْھَا عَلَیْنَا 

 O Allah! Put affection amongst our hearts, reform our matters within us, guide us to the path of peace, save us from the darkness towards the light, save us from all kinds of obscenity; the apparent as well as the hidden; bless our hearing, our sight, our hearts, our spouses and *our children,* turn in mercy towards us. Indeed You are the One who greatly accepts repentance, most Merciful. Make us the ones most grateful for Your bounties so we may compete with one another in Praising You for these (bounties) and complete these (bounties) for us. 

Mustadarak Al Hakim 

Sahih -1016

*May Allah accept our du'a, Aameen*

562. Duaas And Adhkaar That The Prophet Sal Allaahu Alayhi Sa Sallam Frequently Said During The Day And Night

 By Asma bint Shameem 

There are many duaas and adhkaar that the Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam frequently said during the day and night. 

All of them are beautiful, yet very deep and rich in meaning. 

Of these, the duaas most frequently said by the Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam were:

a) Anas radhi Allaahu anhu  said that *the most frequent Dua'a* of the Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam 

was:

اللهم ربَّنا آتِنا في الدنيا حسنةً، وفي الآخِرةِ حسنةً، وقِنا عذابَ النارِ

"Allahumma atina fid-dunya hasanatan, wa fil-akhirati hasanatan, wa qina 'adhab-annar”

“O our Lord, grants us the best in this life and the best in the next life, and protects us from the punishment of the Fire.” 

(al-Bukhaari, Muslim)

b) Umm Salamah radhi Allaahu anhaa said: 

‘The supplication *he said most frequently* was: 

”‏ يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِي عَلَى دِينِكَ ‏”‏

“O Changer of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your religion 

Yaa Muqallibal-quloob, thabbit qalbī `alaa deenik.

She said: 

‘So I said: 

“O Messenger of Allaah, why do you supplicate so frequently: ‘O Changer of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your religion.’ 

He said:

‘O Umm Salamah! Verily, there is no human being except that his heart is between Two Fingers of the Fingers of Allaah, so whomsoever He wills He makes steadfast, and whomever He wills He causes to deviate.’”

(At-Tirmithi- saheeh by al-Albaani)

Subhaan Allaah so easy but SO Deep and SO comprehensive! 

Let’s memorize these beautiful duaas and let’s make them a FREQUENT part of OUR lives too, just as they were a part of the life of our Beloved; Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam. 

May Allaah forgive us and accept from us. Ameen