The husband must remain quiet when his wife becomes angry and vice versa, at least until the anger subsides and the storm abates.
Ibn al-Jawzi said in Sayd Al-Khaatir:
“When your companion becomes angry and says something that is unwarranted, you should not take it too hard. His situation is that of a drunken person who is not aware of what is taking place. Instead, be patient, even if it means only for a little while. If you reciprocate his words with harsh words of your own, you become like the sane person who seeks revenge on a madman, or the conscious person who seeks retribution from an unconscious one.”
Know that as soon as he awakes from this state, s/he will regretful for what happened, and s/he will come to recognize your value because of your patience.
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