484. What To do After An Argument?

By Asma bint Shameem

We all get into quarrels and arguments one time or another. 

And then we *regret* it later. 

Sometimes we just can’t avoid them....

*BUT....* 

Did you know that there’s something you CAN do AFTER an argument...?

Something that will not only be an *expiation* for that quarrel but also be a source of *rewards* for you?

The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:

*“Performing two rakah is an expiation for any quarrel.”* 

(hasan by Shaikh al-Albaani in as-Saheehah)

Subhaan Allaah, how Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala gives us opportunities to get our sins forgiven and earn rewards, even after something like an argument!

Note that this expiation includes all the insults, the bad words, all the name calling...

Imam as-San’aani said in explanation of this hadeeth:

”That is: a dispute and insult. So it is necessary for the one who argues and insults [another] that he expiates it.

(Two Rak’at): it is as if the two rak’aat expiate the sin of obscenity. 

As for the right of the one he insults, then it is not dropped except by his pardoning… ”

[Tanweer Sharh Jami as-Sagheer (5/89)]

Shaikh Abdur Ra’uf Al-Manawee commented on this hadeeth saying:

“First a person should perform *wudhu* which diminishes the anger. 

Then he should pray the two rak’ah.”

[Faydul Qadir hadeeth # 3355]

So the next time you get into an argument with someone....

STOP. 

Make wudhu. 

And pray two rak’aat. 

 

Your prayer will be an expiation for you. 

Obviously we should avoid unnecessary bickering and arguments at *all times* and in *all circumstances*. 

But if you do get into one, remember to revive this beautiful Sunnah and earn rewards for yourself. 

REMEMBER....

It's NOT about *winning* the *”argument”*. 

It's about *winning* the *HEART* 

And Allaah knows best