By Asma Bint Shameem
The wedding is very simple in Islaam.
So there’s nothing much to do as far as a wedding is concerned in our Deen.
Keep it simple.
Men and women should be separate.
Women can dress up but they should keep the limits of showing their awrah in mind, even in front of other women. So they should dress modestly.
The bride should not dress up and sit on a stage in front of hundreds of strange men staring at her.
There should be no music.
And of course there should be no alcohol or other prohibited things in the wedding.
The family of the girl does not have to do anything.
It’s NOT any extra rewards to do nikaah in the masjid. Nikaah can be done *anywhere*.
There’s no proof of “ubtan” or “mayyun” or “Haldi”. That’s Hindu culture.
The mehndi ceremony the way we have in our customs is also not allowed.
There’s a lot of haraam that goes on in these ceremonies.
There’s music, dancing, mixing of men and women, women dressed inappropriately, going around without hijaab, and some even have alcohol Astaghfirullaah.
All these things are completely prohibited in our Deen.
However if just the girls get together and apply mehndi (henna) on their hands and sing on Daff only and among themselves without any men there, then there’s nothing wrong with that.
Also there’s no need for the extravagant weddings that we usually have after borrowing money and spending thousands and thousands and inviting unnecessarily large numbers of people.
And of course there no need for “jahayz” or the money and stuff that the parents are *forced* to give their daughters for their wedding.
Again, that’s HINDU culture.
Rather it’s the GROOM that is supposed to bring the dowry and the gifts for his new bride.
All the groom needs is a nikaah then a waleemah; that’s it.
And ALLAH knows the best.
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