730. Secret Second/Third/Fourth Wife?

Secret Second/Third/Fourth WIFE?

HE WILL TELL EVERYONE LATER? 

RUN AWAY!!

If someone wants to get into a secret second marriage with you, then run from him, delete him, and ban him out of your life, and don't look back.

The Messenger Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam said, 

“Announce the Nikāḥ.” [Ṣaḥīḥ] He also said, “The difference between Halal and Haram is the sound of beating the daff. (i.e. a public celebration)” [Ḥasan]

Hishām ibn ‘Urwah (r) said, 

“My father used to say: Secret marriages are not appropriate.”

Nāfi‘ (r) said, 

“There is no such thing as a secret marriage in Islam.”

‘Abdullah ibn ‘Utbah (r) said, 

“The worst of marriages are secret marriages.”

Ibn Taymiyyah (r) said, “Secret marriages are from the same category as taking up mistresses; similar to them...” 

According to Imam Malik (r), a secret marriage includes a marriage in which there are two witnesses but they are advised not to tell others. In his view, such a marriage should be annulled with a divorce and the two parties should be separated!

Marriages are meant to be public, clear, and transparent, so there is no abuse, and so each party can be held responsible. Unless someone is willing to take responsibility for this contract which Allah calls “ميثاقا غليظا”, a firm covenant, don't destroy your own life by getting into such a relationship! That covenant is that he should either keep you in his care responsibly or discontinue the marriage appropriately!

- Brother Abdul Wahab Saleem 

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Secret marriage is one of several kinds of violation by men of the rights and dignity of women. I have been informed that it is increasingly common for Muslim preachers in Europe and America and for those visiting the West to marry women in secret and for a short period, after which they, presumably, end the marriage, before going on to contract another marriage of the same sort somewhere else. This is a violation of the laws and good purposes of marriage, and a vicious exploitation of women whose circumstances oblige them to enter into such contracts. The wrong is analogous to riba..."