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Wednesday, August 25, 2021

546. Can I Wish My Non-Muslim Colleagues “Merry Christmas Or Give Them Gifts At This Time Or Attend ‘Christmas Parties?

By Asma bint Shameem 

It’s not allowed for us Muslims to participate in ANY sort of non-Muslim practice that’s ‘religious’. 

Why not?

1. It’s condoning and acknowledging their Shirk!

By congratulating the 
non-Muslims in their religious festivals, we are actually saying “Congratulations on your belief that Allaah has a son”!

By participating in anything to do with  Christmas, be it a “gift exchange”, a Christmas party, or simply wishing someone “Merry Christmas”, we’re actually condoning and acknowledging their shirk and its celebration. 

Allaah specifically tells us:
“....do not help one another in sin and transgression. And fear Allaah. Verily, Allaah is Severe in punishment.” 
(Surah al-Maa’idah:2)

 Ibn al-Qayyim said:
“And it is on the same level as congratulating them for *prostrating* to the CROSS. 

Rather it is a GREATER SIN with Allaah. 
And it is a more severe abomination than to congratulate them for drinking alcohol and killing someone, committing illegal sexual intercourse and things of this nature. 
And many of the people who don’t have any deen (or respect for the deen) fall into this. 
And he doesn’t know the ugliness (evil) of what he has done. 
So whoever congratulates a person for committing sins, or innovations, or disbelief, then he has EXPOSED himself to the HATE and WRATH of Allaah.”

Subhaan Allaah!

If just wishing someone Merry Christmas is like participating in a Shirki festival, and exposing oneself to the Hate and Wrath of Allaah, then what about those of us who actually bring a Christmas tree in the house and decorate it, set presents under it and celebrate it with their families?!

 Shaikh Ibn Uthaymeen said:
“The Christians’ celebrating the birth of ‘Eesaa, upon him be peace, is for them. 
However, it is not permissible for the Muslim to participate in their holidays. They are not to give them gifts at the time of their holidays nor is it permissible to sell them anything which will aid them in the celebration of their holidays; all of this is incorrect. 
This is because it entails being pleased with that which they are upon if the person were to do so. 
And being pleased with Kufr and the holidays of the disbelievers is prohibited for the Muslims.”

2. Allaah is NOT pleased with it!

Since it’s is cooperating in shirk and disbelief, it is NOT pleasing to Allaah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala. 

 He says:
“If you disbelieve, then verily, Allaah is not in need of you, He likes not disbelief for His slaves. And if you are grateful (by being believers), He is pleased therewith for you.” 
(Surah az-Zumar: 7) 

3. Allaah’s Wrath descends on this day!

Umar radhi Allaahu anhu said:
“Do not enter upon the mushrikeen in their churches on the day of their festival, for Divine Wrath is descending upon them.” 

Al-Zayla’i said: 
“Giving gifts on the occasion of Nayrooz and Mahrjaan [two non-Islamic Persian festivals] is not permissible, i.e., giving gifts on these two days is haraam, and is in fact kufr.”

Abu Hafs and Kabeer said: 
“If a man were to worship Allaah for fifty years, then on the day of Nayrooz he were to give an egg as a gift to one of the mushrikeen, intending thereby to venerate that day, he would have committed kufr and his good deeds would be cancelled out.”

 But aren’t they just celebrating the birth of our Prophet Eesa Alaiyhis-Salaatu was-Salaam?

Celebrating Christmas is celebration of the birth of Christ, whom they think is the son of God. 

They celebrate the day the ‘son’ of God was born. 
That’s why this day is important to them. 

They’re not celebrating the birth of a prophet. 

They’re celebrating the birth of the son of God, the ‘savior’ who died at the cross. 
Astaghfirullaah. 

So What to Do?

Just tell them politely you don’t celebrate Christmas because it’s contrary to the fundamental principles of your religion. 

And that you will not be participating in any of the religious activities or parties including ‘gift exchange’. 

Similarly it’s NOT RIGHT for us to give them gifts at this time because “we want to fit in” 
Or we give them gifts just because we feel “pressured” to do so since everyone around is giving gifts. 

INSTEAD, bring them gifts at the time of the two Eids and in Ramadhaan and *throughout the year*, ‘just because’.
Tell them it’s PART of your DEEN to give gifts for no specific reason. 

Also it’s of VITAL importance, especially for those of us who’re in the working field, to EDUCATE our  colleagues and neighbors about Islaam, and what we believe in, not just around Christmas time, but THROUGHOUT the year.

This way you can ‘ESTABLISH’ yourself and your Faith at the workplace. 

TALK about your Deen. Talk about what ‘shirk’ means and WHY it’s wrong, what our beliefs and principles and ethics are, how we behave, why we wear hijaab, etc., LONG BEFORE Christmas time. 

This subtle ‘education’ about our beliefs should be done *throughout* the year so that when the time for their religious festivals comes, they know EXACTLY what we do and what we don’t; what to expect of us and what not. 

This way we’re not ‘scrambling’ at the last minute looking for excuses not to attend their religious festivities and feeling awkward for not participating. 

And they also won’t feel you’re being a ‘spoilt sport’; rather your refusal to participate in their religious holidays is due to your beliefs and principles and not some personal prejudice or laziness. 

The scholars said:
“If it is the usual practice for the employees of the company to take part in this dinner, or if you are invited to it directly, then try to give whatever excuse you can and use whatever tricks you can to avoid it. In fact we have seen that many respectable companies respect the religious sentiments of their employees, so if you explain that you have a religious excuse that prevents you from participating in this celebration, then respectable companies such as this will understand that and will respect the employee’s feelings.” (Islamqa Fatwa # 145986)

Shaikh Ibn Uthaymeen said:
“It is haraam for a Muslim to accept invitations on such occasions, because this is worse than congratulating them as it implies taking part in their celebrations.
Similarly, Muslims are forbidden to imitate the non Muslims by having parties on such occasions, or exchanging gifts, or giving out sweets or food, or taking time off work, etc., because the Prophet Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam said: "Whoever imitates a people is one of them."
Whoever does anything of this sort is a sinner, whether he does it out of politeness or to be friendly, or because he is too shy to refuse, or for whatever other reason, because this is hypocrisy in Islaam, and because it makes the disbelievers feel proud of their religion.” 
(Majmoo’ah Fataawa wa Rasaa’il 3/369)

And Allaah knows best

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